Learn how to deal with a break up! One
of the best ways to deal with a break up is to learn how to accept it. The
more you fight accepting it, the harder it will be to deal with the break
up. Acceptance and forgiveness are the two key ingredients to finding peace
and happiness in any situation, and especially so when concerning a relationship
break up.
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From
http://yedda.com/questions/7358141052105/
"How to Deal With a Break
Up
Q. What's the best way to deal with
breaking up with someone?
A. RE: How to deal with a
break-up
I don't think there is an ideal way
of course, everyone should do what feels good for them. Bu I can tell you
how I dealt with my break up that was, for me, the mother of all break
ups...
I was with my ex for 9 years and
was very much dependent on him, not only emotionally, but also financially
(or so I thought) we didn't have children, but we had everything else, we
just bought an apartment a few months before the break up, we had pets, our
whole families were very much expecting us to stay together forever. The
break up was totally one sided, he just left me. I really thought that I
would die, I felt like nothing good is ever going to happened and that there's
no way I can learn to live on my own.
But then again, 2 years later, I'm
married to a wonderful person, I learned to be brave and independent, I made
new friends and had a lot of adventures and actually that break up was the
best thing that ever happened to me.
How did I do it?! by not surrendering
to depression or to denial. By letting myself be as sad as possible and really
let myself express and feel my sadness and anger and heart break. By not
trying to stay friend, not only with him but with most of our mutual friends
and by just moving on with my life when the time was
right.
I guess it is a little like pulling
off a band aid - it's better done quick so you'll have the energy avaliable
to deal with your own emotions off the matter. A really good thing I did
was to let myself get very very angry. I truly wished him death in a freak
car accidents and so on. I told people how angry I was. Not trying to understand
the other side, and focusing more on understanding my own feeling was a huge
help.
Practical
advices:
1. Feel, I know it feels like letting
those emotions out would be destructive, but really it's the best thing you
can do, so cry, be depressed, be angry, don't be afraid of your own
emotions.
2. avoid your ex - I'm not saying
don't go out of the apartment, but also, don't go to the places the two of
you used to hang out, if he/she wants to stay friends, refuse. There's no
way to turn a lover into a friend without the buffer zone of time and recovery.
Meeting them might sooth the pain for a short time, but it doesn't help you
recover from the pain.
3. Therapy - I couldn't afford it
at the time, but I think that this is the perfect time and way to process
your feelings and also learn about your relationship patterns and how to
break them.
4. Blog - That was a good way for
me to express my own emotions and later on to get support and love and help
from people who were reading it.
5. Understanding that this is a sucky
time in life and that it's not going last forever."
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From
http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/advice/12639
"How to deal with a break
up?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year
old Female
Hello me and my boyfriend broke up
yesturday which was feb.28 2011. I don't know how I am going to move on all
by myself because I see him everywhere he rides my bus, and lives down the
street from me. I just need help how to get over him please help
me
RomanceClass.com
Advice
It's really too early to figure this
out.
You've only been broken up one day
and you might be back together again tomorrow.
Meanwhile, make sure he doesn't see
you as desperate. Don't beg and do keep a happy smile on your face when he
is around. He is certainly more likely to want to be back with you if you
are not moping around.
If you are still broken up a week
from now, write again."
From
www.helium.com/tpc/20055
"How to deal with a break up at
work
by Gisel Villagome
Dealing with an ex-boyfriend can
be a hectic task. Having to deal with an ex-boyfriend at work can be even
worse. First off there is the golden rule at work which states never to date
a co-worker, but it is because I broke such rule that I am writing this article.
It can all be a big nightmare. Not all hope is lost however, there is a chance
of survival."
From
http://malaysia.answers.yahoo.com/question
/index?qid=20110222160634AABHZql
How to Deal With a Break
Up
"There is no reason for anyone to
want to kill themselves. There is someone for everyone, she is not the only
or the last woman on earth. My motto is if someone you care for makes you
cry they don't care for you and they aren't worth the tears. Trust me you
will find someone and they will love you just as much if not more then you
love them. And only time heals pain, no one can tell you how to deal with
a break up, because everyone deals with everything differently. Keep your
head up, and good luck to finding that special someone."
From
http://raining-noodles.blogspot.com/2005/11/
aunt-agony-2-break-up-survival.html
"Dear Aunt
Agony,
I broke up with my boyfriend recently.
It's been hell even though my girlfriends are here for me, thank god. A few
days ago I found a stack of letters to and from him. The ones I wrote but
never dared to send him, and the ones he wrote to me. I cried when I read
them. I want to forget him and yet I miss him too. What should I do with
the letters?
A. Do you seek closure? Closure means
tying up the emotional loose ends for good, not unlike emotional spring-cleaning.
It means coming to terms with the end and moving on for good. As you have
mentioned, the letters still hurt you. Not too wise to keep reading them,
in my opinion.
Why let him hurt you any more? You're
worth more than that shit.
Because I suspect the problem goes
further back than just those letters, I'll write about how to deal with a
break-up as well."
From
http://www.teencentral.net/Stories/
Storyfrm.php?stry=179408
" confused needs advice on how to
deal with a break up.
confused, 16
I need some advice about a past
relationship.
I was seeing this guy. He goes to
college and he’s about 40 minutes away. I met him through one of my
friends that graduated. He and I kept in touch since we had met. He seemed
like a great guy. He did all the right things, told me I was beautiful...
blah blah blah. I fell for him quite hard. He took my kissing virginity and
really was the first guy I'd been in a relationship with. But to tell you
the truth, I felt a lot of pressure from him. He wanted me to do whatever
he wanted me to do because he was older than me. For example, he didn't think
that we could make a long-distance relationship work, but he didn't want
me to go on dates with other guys. So I did what he wanted me to
do.
After about two months, of a
"non-relationship”, he broke things off. He said that we had too many
things going against us. We still write each other about 2-3 times a day.
I feel like I should let him go, but there's a part of me that just feels
like I won't meet anyone else like him. Should I keep in contact with him?
Should I let him go and stop trying to be friends with him? Thanks,
-Confused.
A.
* confused it is an extreme challenge
to end a relationship when there were so many feelings
involved.
* A first relationship is tough to
let go. Guys sometimes will tell a girl everything that she wants to hear
to win her over. Once, he has won her over if he really didn't have a sincere
interest they will look for an excuse to let her go."
From
http://sg.answers.yahoo.com/question
/index?qid=20110106001116AAB6Ifu
"Q. How to deal with a break up when
we will still be mates?
my girlfriend left me today. I love(d)
her so so much, she was my life, my world, my everything and I could tell
her anything, I am calling her to talk tonight for a chat as I have a problem
at the moment and some things I want to say to her, we have agreed to remain
friends, she has said no more than that but I would like to think that MAYBE
we can be together again, I just dont know though, but anyway I am wondering
how I can get over the break up, she knows its made me sad and she is sorry
for it so thats are starting point I spose.....please only give advice if
you want to help me here as this is genuine,
thanks for helping
everyone
Mitch
A. I know it's cliche but it's true
..... time does heal all wounds. That being said, you need to take a little
time for you. It's great that you and your ex want to be friends but you
just broke up today and you are already moving on to the friendship part
in the same day? That's mighty fast. You haven't given yourself any time
to heal and get over what is clearly a very painful
situation.
For now, if you are contacting her
.... stop! If she is the one contacting you, then don't take her calls, avoid
her instant messages. Take time for YOU! It may take a week, may take a month
but for now you need to get yourself together if you are ever truly going
to be able to be a good friend to your ex, but most importantly for your
own sanity and well being. You deserve it."
From
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?
qid=20110102143637AAWM2Ko&show=7
"Q. Help With
Songs!!?
ok... does anyone know any good songs
on how to deal with a break up or moving along (besides "move along") and
getting over the relationship. I wanna find a group of songs to put on a
cd for my friend. PLEASE HELP!!! list as many songs that you can think
of!!
A. Sometimes, excepting that you
are in pain and wallowing in it (but only for a short amount of time, lol)
helps.
But for some good man-hate
music:
I suggest anything by Evanescence
("Call Me When Your Sober" is wonderful)
I have broken up with my Boy friend
of four years I recently found out that he made another girl pregnant he
swore to me that he would never hurt me and break my heart what must i do
now?
Please help
REPLY:
give a rats ass
WE, as in all of us who have been
dumped, have to admit that there are people we fall in love with who really
don't give a rats ass about us. We love with all our hearts then have to
go thru the pain of a broken heart while they are out there having a great
time.
I know what you are saying because
I loved my ex with all my heart and she turned around and lied and cheated
on me several times yet I still have love for her. Its hard to understand
why we can still care for these people but I guess the only answer is that
we know what TRUE LOVE is and they never will.
I too have times when I hate her
then wish she would realize what she threw away and come back, but that will
never happen.
I just want to turn off the struggle
in my head and move on and love again and not give a rats ass about her
"
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