| Surviving a
Break Up!
Surviving a break up can be done. There
were trillions of broken hearts before you, and there will be trillions of
broken hearts after you. You are not alone! It is safe to say that everyone
has had a heartbreak, and has managed to master surving a break up.
Understanding, self-love, and time are
crucial to your survival, but you will get through it! Read some samples
of advice for surviving a break up found online, post your comments or
suggestions below, and read others. We hope you can find some peace here.
From
http://www.pharrah13.com/surviving_a_breakup.html
"Surviving the Breakup of A
Relationship
The breakup of an important love
relationship is the most traumatic of human experiences and we have all suffered
through at least one I am sure.
In many ways we can more easily cope
with the death of a loved one. Although we don't understand death, at least
we understand its finality.
With the breakup of a relationship,
days and weeks of lingering and haunting "ifs" often follow. The pain can
penetrate every fiber of our being.
In the days following the breakup
we think of little else than the one we loved and trusted, the one we had
so much invested in. Everywhere we go we are reminded of them--a face in
a crowd, the flash of a familiar shirt, a distant voice, a
song."
From
http://www.happygrrls.com/relating/survivingabreakup.html
"On My Own: Surviving a
break-up...
When it's over, it may seem like
the end of the world, but life does go on.
Chances are that, at least once in
your lifetime, you will experience a break-up. The most important thing to
keep in mind is that it happens to everyone, and life does go on. As someone
who has gone through several break-ups, I can attest that as bleak as things
may look, eventually the pain and hurt do dissipate. There was a life before
him, and there will be a life after him. One of the best moments of life
is waking up and realizing that you can stand on your own again. But things
are easier said than done, and everyone has a different healing
process.
Relationships can become an addiction,
and once they're over, the withdrawal can be consuming."
From
http://www.haitiwebs.com/forums/showthread.php?t=40774
" Surviving a
Break-up
So you’ve just gone through
a devastating break-up. My heart goes out to you. There is nothing quite
as painful as being dumped by someone you thought was the One. I know
you’re probably feeling like your heart has been ripped out and stomped
on and that your hopes and dreams have been shattered. Do what you have to
do (within reason, of course) to grieve this loss—cry, get angry, punch
your pillow, throw darts at your ex’s picture.
One thing you should not do, however,
is visit, phone, email, or text you ex. You should have no contact whatsoever.
Accept the fact that it is over and make a clean break. Keep your dignity
intact. Trust me on this—in the long run you’ll be glad you
did."
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From
http://www.counseling.ilstu.edu/files/downloads
/articles/coping-breaking_up_hard.pdf
""Breaking-up" Is Hard To Do
by Kim Hays, Staff Counselor, Student Counseling
Services
.... There are several things that
can help you survive a "break-up." First, it’s important to remember
that as bad as you feel now, the hurt will ease with time. Time works to
heal emotional pain if you can give yourself time to feel sad as well as
time away from the sadness. During the healing process take time to review
the relationship. Look at its good points and the places it was less than
ideal. There are probably many lessons you can learn about yourself, about
what you value in a relationship and about what needs to happen differently
next time. Taking the time to review and reflect can turn the hurt into an
opportunity for personal growth. "
From
http://simonesu.wordpress.com/2011/02/21/
top-tips-for-surviving-a-break-up/
"Top Tips For Surviving A Break
Up
Few things are as devastating as
a messy break-up. Your self-image has been ground th_cheer_up.gifinto the
dust, you feel ugly and unwanted and you’re sure people are talking
about you behind your back. Or even worse, they feel sorry for
you.
And there’s this ache somewhere
between your stomach and your ribs that just won’t go away. Especially
after you saw your ex with the new partner outside the bank this morning.
But all is not lost, even though it feels like it right
now.
* Take heart.
* Life is not over.
* Other people will find you attractive again.
* The awful feeling of sadness will not last forever.
* You could be better off without this person.
* Your finances will recover.
* You can learn from this mistake.
* You’ll have more time now to spend with friends.
* You don’t have to account for your movements.
* A cheat is going to do it again.
* The best revenge is looking good and being happy. "
From
http://www.kalimunro.com/tips_break_ups.html
"Tips For Surviving a Break Up and
Other Losses
>
by Kali Munro, M.Ed., Psychotherapist
Breaking up is never easy. Here are
some tips to help you get through this very painful time. For more detailed
information about surviving a break up, you may want to read my article,
Break-ups: How To Survive Them"
From
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsproblems/lnsbreakingup/0,,nll,00.html
"Get Over Him: Eight Tips for Surviving
a Breakup
>
by Compiled by Ilana Arazie
"I find myself missing him less each
day and I find that the days are passing much more quickly. Am I over him?
I doubt it, but I'm on the right track." -- jleyritz
Whether you were dating for a few
months, in a long-term relationship or married, breaking up is hard to do.
The good news is that life does get better. Eventually, you will be able
to get out of your robe, lose the boxes of Kleenex and watch reruns of Mad
About You without breaking down in tears. Many of our members know exactly
how you feel right now. Read their tips on getting over him and getting on
with your life.
1. Get it all
out
2. Focus on
today
3. Think
positively
4. Don't Stay
Bitter
5. Don't Lose Faith in
People
6. Have No Fear
7. Do Something
New
8. Find some words of wisdom -- and
live by them"
From
http://www.asi-results.com/brainstorm/brain974.htm
" SURVIVING A
BREAK-UP
You're Not Broken, So Don't Throw
Yourself Away
>
By Cathy Hulbert, MSW, Licensed Clinical Social Worker
"....Just remember that whatever
happens in that relationship -- there WILL be a "rest of your life." If
disappointment makes you forget that, even for a day, you might be in trouble.
If the pain is so severe that you start dreading the thought of living a
long life and want to end yours, please talk to a trusted adult immediately.
Many a grave is filled with the body of a young person who didn't realize
: THE PAIN GOES AWAY.
Not only does the pain go away, but
the miracle is that the happy memories often remain, decades after you're
happily involved with someone else. Why is that? My theory is this: When
you are young, your feelings burn extremely bright, but you're still figuring
out who you are and what you want out of life. You might date someone who
loves rap music, then someone who hates it, then someone who isn't really
interested in music at all because he (or she) is too busy reading or training
for a track team. You're emotions might surge one day, and soon after your
own tastes have changed. In other words: there will be times when you do
the breaking up and times when you're on the receiving end. But either way,
you have been an important part of someone's life..."
From
http://www.wwu.edu/chw/counseling/
subpages/subselfhelp/breakup.shtml
"Surviving a Break-up, Falling out
of Love
How can something that made me so
happy now cause so much pain? Our two greatest fears about ending a relationship
are that:
1. Our feelings of loss, rejection,
hurt, loneliness, and pain will be overwhelming and unbearable and we will
never get over it.
2. We will never love or be loved
again
Often, we want to create, or for
those lucky enough to have a stable background, recreate the feelings of
connectedness, safety, and security that we associate with childhood."
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